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post from @dilfsisko May 20th, 2022
I can't explain how much I love baguette child. I would protect them with my life.
Not all construction work is equally enjoyable. For example, enlarging a drilled hole is boring, but fastening pieces of metal together is riveting.
this joke would get the exact same reaction in 1870 that it gets in 2021 and I love that about it
It took a few months, but my positive horror series is finally finished! A silly little project I started late September ended up with 14 images and rekindling my love of horror!
hey so like. be who the fuck you are and in the face of extermination say fuck you. love and light and transgender people forever and ever and ever
Anonymous asked:
op sorry for my piss on the poor reading comprehension but when u said "trains came from the mines" in that post i thought we just like. found them down there.
kidlit-queen-competition answered:
Oh yeah nah that’s how it happened. In our hubris we dug too deep and found beasts of fire and iron, you know how it is.
If safety in your ideal society is entirely based on care by networks of affinity, and does not provide care for people who are not liked by anybody, then your society is actually even worse than the situation we are in now.
Pissing off people close to you or over-exhausting your social network or isolating yourself is often an inherent part of many mental health problems, addictions, etc. By the time people need care the most, they have often lost all their networks of affinity, and with some bad luck, any of us could find ourselves in that situation.
There has to be unconditional care available for the more unlikable of us, or there isn't really a safety net for any of us.
You know what I hate about toxic heterosexual culture? The way others try and force it on people.
Like, heterosexuals are so used to it that they just....do that, to other couples, usually younger ones.
My partner and I are read as straight as treated as some sort of willing participants in this.
Like the other night, after dinner at family's house I started collecting dishes to wash them, because I'm at someone's house and that is how I was raised.
Now, boyfriend knows I'm allergic to dishsoap so he comes up and insists on doing it for me, I'm grateful and pick up a towel to dry the dishes. It was a nice moment actually, he's seen me break out in rashes and itchy awful hive things that stick around for weeks.
But to the older heterosexual couples it became fodder for how I "owned" him, he was whipped and down trodden etc. When I said, meekly (I was a little taken aback by the "haha you volunteer to do the dishes and then make him do it" when I hadn't even volunteered, I was just quietly collecting dishes and starting the process) said that he had insisted, the joke became about how he probably vaguely suggested and I pounced on it or that he would be in "big trouble" if he didn't suggest it.
I didn't bother saying I was allergic to dishsoap, I've been saying that since I was 10 and no one believed me, I could already had the jokes they would make about the "allergy", so I just shut up and kept wiping dishes and putting them away.
But this isn't new, my last relationship was also previously read as cis/het and it was always like, if I asked my partner to do anything for me it was met with "see if you can get your balls out of her purse while you're at it".
Like if the hets wanna have this culture, fine, do you. If you want to act like any kindness or request is emasculating servitude and that women are harpies, whatever. But don't try and push your miserable dynamics onto everyone else.
I look forward to a cultural shift when it comes to this. The amount of times I've had to tell older women that I like hanging out with my husband only to see their shock is
sad
I have to deal with toxic masculinity Every. Fucking. Day. because apparently I can't help or do anything for my wife without a million questions to see if I'm whipped. Like why would marry someone and not lift a finger for them
This. My boyfriend is very helpful and does his share of chores, and often more depending on my mobility. His care, kindness and consideration is because we love each other, his desire to do the dishes was not out of fear, but out of love because he doesn't like seeing me with blisters on my fingers.
The kindness and respect that couples show to each other should not be subject to mockery just because it looks unfamiliar.
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adhd tip that has been working for me for literal years
i wear a ring on my right index finger at all times like i never take it off me and the ring are One. if i have a fleeting thought that i don't want to forget i take it off and put it on my left hand.
i'm so used to it being on my right that it just feels Wrong and i got used to associating the thing i'm thinking about with the act of putting the ring on a different hand and when i look at it i instantly remember why it's there, or if i don't then i know that i forgot Something and eventually remember what.
works when i think about something in a conversation and want to let the other person finish without forgetting what i want to say later, when i want to specifically remember that i put something in a specific place that i will need later in the day, when i'm falling asleep and have some idea i don't want to forget in the morning (this one is funny cuz if i open my notes and write it down it usually reads like nonsense in the morning and i can't remember what i even meant but if i do the ring trick i remember what i was thinking exactly).
it's about associating the action with the thought. like when you forget why you came into the room and go back and retrace your steps exactly and then you remember. literally putting a pin in it but it's a piece of jewelry.
this post exists because last night while i was falling asleep i thought "huh that's a neat little thing maybe i should write about it" and put my ring on my left hand to remember
this also works if you’re at home or in a personal space where you can throw a spoon on the floor
it doesn’t have to be a spoon, per se, but if you think of something you want to remember later, pick up an object and put it in a doorway or smack dab on your floor
tripping hazard? maybe. but the satisfaction of flinging silverware onto hardwood at 2am when i realize i have to send an email in the morning is unparalleled
this method brought 2 you by: my undiagnosed 70yo ADHD aunt who puts a lot of tchotchkes in her bedroom doorway
i think grossness is a vital aspect of life btw and we all experience it and i think its important to represent in art and i think oversanitization of popular media is 100% our downfall. things are gross and disgusting and yucky and thats life we cannot deny ourselves this
I keep thinking about this in the context of caring for my ageing patients. No one TELLS them, before they’re old, how things are going to change, or why. No one talks about the loss of elastin, and how that doesn’t just affect your skin looking old, but also how it heals. No one warns them that their skin will become paper-thin if they live long enough, incredibly fragile and easy to tear. Just “hurr dur wrinkly!!!”
No one tells them their bowels are going to lose strength and coordination, so it gets more and more difficult to have bowel movements. No one warns them about obstipation, much less bowel obstructions. I have a saying I repeat often in clinic: “Proper pooping prevents problems!” I say it because it makes people chuckle, because it destigmatizes needing to poop. Everyone poops. And it turns out pooping requires both a complex network of nerves to create peristalsis, and stools soft enough to move through the bowels, and I have watched more than one elderly patient die because their bowels stopped working right.
No one talks about hemorrhoids, so I have patients coming in terrified by blood in their stools–and listen, blood in your poop is definitely a good reason to see a doctor; if you’re over 50 and you haven’t had a colonoscopy, get one. It’s the best health screening we have evidence for, in my opinion. Colon cancer is a bitch. But more commonly, people have bloody stools because they have either hemorrhoids that are bleeding or because they have an anal fissure after straining on a hard bowel movement. Do you know what a hemorrhoid is? I didn’t, until I was well into medical school. Everyone has them. They’re venous columns that surround the rectum and anus. Internal ones can bleed; external ones can itch. Most people will get them eventually. Be kind about them.
Everyone is going to have trouble peeing if they live long enough. Men can’t start, women can’t stop. Because people with prostates will often have benign enlargement of the prostate–it’s not cancer, but it gets bigger–and the urethra, the tube that lets urine leave the bladder, goes through the prostate. Bigger prostate = compressed tube, less flow. Meanwhile, people with uteruses have much shorter urethras, which means that when we lose that beautiful collagen and elastic, we also lose it in the two sphincters that help us keep from leaking urine, and so we leak urine. Especially when something triggers an increase in intra-abdominal pressure, like a sneeze or a cough or a laugh.
All these things people are taught to be ashamed of and embarrassed about–they are so common. They’re normal parts of having a human body and doing the things one does with a human body. Poop trouble? Welcome to the club! People have been writing about their cures for constipation for as long as written language has existed. Listen, you are not alone. You are not alone. You are not alone. And that means that when someone else has a gross problem, you must be kind to them, because that is going to be you. There will be a day when you have diarrhea, because viral gastroenteritis spreads like wildfire every winter. There will be a day when you cough a huge glob of mucus comes out, because mucus is a natural defense mechanism and kind of miraculous but also nasty. Every gross thing a body can do, yours is likely to do, if not now then later.
Be kind.
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